A while back I was reading one of the little articles that my Mom had sent me.
It was quite a while back – far enough that I can’t even remember the whole context of the article. I do remember enough of the context that it was a husband speaking to his wife.
I also remember the line that struck me, and now it has been bouncing around my head for weeks.
“‘I promise to give you my best, and not just whatever is leftover. “
This line struck me for a couple of reasons.
One, I am married to a man who says this kind of thing, who means this kind of thing, and who does this kind of thing. I get his best. Always.
Two, being a Mom who works outside of the home, especially being a therapist, I often feel sucked dry at the end of the day. During the day, with my clients, I have to be perky,thoughtful, supportive, motivating and always “on”.
When I come home, I want to crash. I feel emotionally drained on many days. I feel like I can’t listen anymore. I can’t encourage anymore. I can’t help anymore. Please. Someone pick me up!
But I come home to the most important people in the world to me.
Are they getting my best? Or are they getting whatever I have leftover?
I have had to stop and ponder this.
Because the reality is, often they are getting whatever is leftover.
And this is NOT good enough. This is not what I want.
This is NOT the kind of wife and mother I want to be.
So, I have resolved to remind myself before I walk in the door: These people deserve my best. These are the people I want to save it all for. These are the loves of my life.
I’m hoping that this gentle reminder will be motivating enough to dig deep and find the energy. That my spirit will be renewed enough just by thinking about how much I love them all.
What do you do to make sure you are giving your best to those who matter most?