The other day I was sitting in a team meeting (a meeting where all the various health disciplines get together to discuss goals and progress of a client’s rehab) about a woman who is in her late 50’s and was hit by a car as a pedestrian and suffered a severe head injury.
This woman is estranged from her 3 children and their families, has no living parents, and only one friend who still visits. She made some choices in her life prior to her accident that seem to have driven everyone away. When she had her accident, no one was interested in reconnecting with her. So, she is alone.
One therapist mentioned that she took this woman to her childhood neighbourhood. The therapist reported it was the “happiest” she had ever seen her, and the woman herself stated that her childhood was the happiest time of her life.
I blurted out “That is the saddest thing ever! Can you imagine if your childhood was the happiest time of your life? All those years later never measured up?”
It sparked a bit of a discussion.
While I think it is awesome to have a great childhood, and have fond memories (and so important to me to help create a great childhood for my kids), it is only one part of my “happiest times”.
I have many, many other “happiest times”.
I admit that there were, are, (and will be) some weeks and months in there that I can do without. There are many dark clouds and chunks of time where I’m not sure I could see any light. But, when I look carefully, I do see a glimmer of happiness was there all along when I let myself be happy for a moment.
I know that my future also holds many more happy times to come. I would hate to hit a point in my life when I feel that I have already lived my happiest time.
I walked out of that meeting thinking to myself that I want every year to be the “happiest year ever”. Yes, every year will have its ups and downs, but I want to always make sure that every year also holds some memories that are the happiest. I need to make sure that I am doing enough of the things in my life that make me most happy to ensure I am creating those “happiest memories”.
Do you have a “happiest time” time in your life?