“Stop trying to demand respect, and start working on building a relationship that naturally creates it.”
Do you have some people in your life who are always going on about how they want to be respected?They may feel like they don’t have the respect that they deserve at home, or at work, or with friends. I have seen some coaches talk and talk and talk to their team about how they MUST respect the coach, they need to learn to respect them. I have heard teachers say the same thing to their students too. Lecture the kids about how they need to learn respect.
I have a little theory about this.
Those who talk so much about how they want respect, complain that they are not given respect, or lecture about how everyone else needs to learn to respect them —- these are the folks that often have problems giving respect. They are the ones who often have problems creating respectful relationships.
Respect is earned.
You want it? Then give it. And you will likely get it back.
Stop trying to force someone to respect you.
Start creating a relationship where respect is inevitable.
Of course, that is not to say that we don’t need to teach our children what respect looks like. Of course we do! But the best way to do that, is to create a respectful relationship with them and create respectful relationships around them.