A few weeks ago Zandra went to a Girl’s Conference put on by our church.
The theme was “Be-YOU-tiful.” It was all about understanding beauty, recognizing your true beauty and seeing the inner beauty in everyone.
It was about an hour away, so on our drive home, Zandra shared with me all that she had learned by reading me the notes she had taken. It promoted an amazing discussion about beauty, self esteem, self respect, confidence, media and perspective.
She had some GREAT quotes – many of which I will steal in weeks to come:)
The one that struck me this time was:
“What you see depends mainly on what you look for.”
Isn’t that good?
It is applicable in so many ways!!
If we look for flaws in ourselves and others – we will surely find. If we look for beauty – we will find it everywhere too.
But it goes so much deeper than looking at ourselves superficially.
It’s how we look at life, as a whole.
Do you ever notice some people have constant drama in their lives? Do you ever notice some people really do have constant drama – but it’s not that big of a deal?
Or some people just always seem to have more problems – and there is never any solution that they could try? Or some people just shoot solutions down without even really considering them?
Some people are surrounded by black clouds? Some have a negative aura?
Yet some people radiate light, and kindness and good. Some people you just want to be in their presence.
Perhaps it’s all a function of what these people look for in their own lives.
Some people just look for the positives in everything.
That is really hard to do. It can sometimes be really annoying to be around those people who do it too. We often may think that they are being fake. Which sometimes they are.
But when I heard this quote, it struck me hard. We are a product of our thoughts. We are a product of what we surround ourselves with – and who we surround ourselves with. We are a product of what we focus on, invest our time in, and what we look for.
If we look for the good, we shall find it.
The “bad” is always there too, but it’s a question of what do we want to highlight and magnify?
Which side of us do we choose to feed? The dark side or the light side?
We are not victims who have to succumb to the environment around us. It will influence us for sure, but we have the ability to choose to look for good, to focus on that good and to look in the mirror and focus on the beauty rather than the flaws.