We’ve been back a couple of weeks now (despite me just finishing my postings of our travels) and back into the swing of life.
At least the swing of the messed up summer schedule life we lead right now!
We don’t have all 5 kids together until the day before school; but get to have some time with just the boys, just the kids, and then just us!
In the midst of our vacations, camps, soccer, baseball, exercise (Rob’s rehab) and work, we have dealt with some issues with some of our kids. Is there ever a time that we aren’t doing that??
So, when I saw this quote, it rang so true:
“Fear is temporary. Regret is forever.”
I can’t tell you the number of times I have said the words, “in our house, we do hard things.”
And sometimes, doing hard things means facing your fears.
And sometimes you need to face your fears so that you know that you can do it.
And sometimes you need to know that you don’t have to do it alone.
We push our kids to face their fears because we believe in them, and know that they can do it. We push them so they know that they can fly! We push them so that they know in the future, they have an experience that they can look back on and find comfort and strength that they were able to do it.
And sometimes we may push too hard, or not push on the right things. One day, we may find out that it was a mistake. But, Rob and I both agreed that we would prefer that our kids resent us when they are older for pushing them too hard, than for not pushing them to their potential and not believing they can do it!
Because fear is temporary and regret is forever.
I truly feel the same way with my girls and also remember my mom was like this with me, too growing up. I think it is just a parent thing to want only the best for your kids and as much as it drove me crazy as a kid now I do totally get it as a mom.
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It’s so true. And I’ve been doing scarier things lately. It’s so much better to me than not doing anything at all.
It’s so temporary.
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It really is temporary but feels like eternity at the time!
I think I like your quote better “In this house, we do hard things!” That is a great one! I think I’ll be using it with the boys as they grow…if you don’t mind 🙂
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I use it all the time. Read it a few years ago on someone else’s blog. It is constantly said in our house— easier for some kids to hear than others (especially when that is not the motto in their other home:)
Oh that is such a good quote! And so true! I’d rather push my kids too, and I think they have come to expect, and even appreciate it!
I hope they will all appreciate it one day at leaat!