I love reading about parenting.
I love surfing the web about parenting.
Of course, I am particularly interested in Motherhood.
I came across a great site today – recommended by another amazing site. It is a site for “Smoms” (stepmoms).
I was a little sad when I saw the word “Smom”. We though we coined it in our house:( Gabe came up with it a few years ago – or so we thought. But, alas, there is a whole smattering of Smoms out there. Including a “Cafe Smom” website
I checked this website out and was immediately sucked into it as I could relate to so much of it. I’m looking forward really exploring it.
I also love one of my “go to Mom” websites: PowerofMoms. I like to read different uplifting articles from this site and get a lot of good ideas.
But something struck me today.
I can’t go to the same website. I have to go to one website for being a Mom and another website for being a Smom.
Now, I get why (sort of…). And in reality, of course both websites are open to everyone.
But I do find it sad that as much as we try to make “Motherhood” all encompassing, there are dividers. We label ourselves: I am a stay at home (SAHM), I’m a working Mom, I am a single Mom. Then there is the biological Mom, the Adoptive Mom, the Stepmom (Smom).
Notice though how these words describe our circumstances around motherhood – not the kind of mothers we actually are. These descriptors certainly carry a lot of weight too. We automatically conjure up certain thoughts, judgements and stereotypes (We do. Just saying. I’ve seen it first hand especially being a “Smom”).
But we are all Mothers. We are all raising children. As much as it is important to celebrate diversity, I think we need to celebrate commonalities too. Commonalities in our hearts: regardless of circumstance, we are mothers.
So for now, I’ll keep jumping websites, but in my reality, I am blending both of those worlds together. I may be a biological Mom, a Smom, a working Mom…but I am one person: I am a Mother, which is an revered and sacred role, and my badge of honour that I wear proudly.