One girl home from over night camp, excited to share all her stories.
Two boys heading to overnight camp.
One super, over the moon excited.
One hating the fact that his Dad and Stepmom are forcing him to go.
It has always been a struggle for Gabe to be away from home. I thought this year his anxiety would ease up a little because Zach was going to go to camp with him. And, it was, until he had a full blown anxiety attack last week.
We talked a lot about it, and I gave him some stuff to read about it.
I know there are many schools on how to treat anxiety related issues.
I think Gabe wishes that both Rob and I bought into the school of “You don’t have to do it if you don’t want to; it won’t make or break you.”
But we don’t.
We buy into the school of learning strategies to help you cope with things that make you nervous and scared. We buy into the idea that avoiding things can actually work against you and strengthen the anxiety. You end up missing out on experiences you would likely enjoy. You become a slave to your anxiety. It’s all the little things that make up your life, so actually, constantly avoiding situations that are scary to you actually will make or break you. We buy into the idea that doing hard things makes you stronger, and it is the hard in life that in fact, makes life great.
But, we understand that it’s tough.
And it’s tough too to balance being sensitive and supportive to Gabe, while still being super excited for Zach. I want them both to have a good experience. I want Gabe to feel good, and I don’t want Zach to feel he can’t have fun if his brother is too stressed.
I’m sure they will figure it out. Sometimes we just gotta push, and have the faith that they can fly.
So, in honour of the these two boys heading off to have some fun adventures (and hopefully stay out of trouble), I have two quotes for them: