I do like to try to “walk the talk” as much as “talk the talk”, so with my quote of the week being “Begin with the end in mind”, I thought I’d share with you a little of it in action.
Rob and I often talk about the kind of family culture we want to create. Being a blended family, we decided very early on that we wanted to create our own identity and not necessarily go with what is often advocated out there: “I’ll take care of mine, you deal with yours” approach. I’ve talked about this before, you may recall.
While we recognized that our kids would have some pretty unique living situations, and will always have another family that is of utmost importance and that they love dearly, we wanted to make sure our family was one where “biology” would take a backseat to respect, love, adoration, caring, and fun.
We saw very early on that the creation of family traditions helps create a family identity and culture, and helps fill your home with love, security and a whole lot of fun. Just the ingredients we were looking for.
So, we have created many CDF traditions (including making this our name:) including special holidays, meals, vacations etc. We decided that many of these traditions we hope to carry to our grave. This means that we need to be consistent with them and make them a top priority.
In envisioning our future, and our future as a family, both Rob and I envisioned having some “boy time” and some “girl time” as our kids get older. Things like Rob spending the weekend with the boys at the Monaco Grand Prix, or me soaking in a hot tub at a luxurious spa in Antigua with Zandra. Those kind of weekends.
Ok. Maybe not so exotic. (Although we can dream, can’t we?)
Perhaps it could be Rob going fishing with the boys (less likely), or going to a weekend Autoshow or ball game (more likely), or me going for an overnight with Zandra and talking into the wee hours of the night in our PJ’s.
Well, “Begin with the end in mind” means we better get that started now – so a tradition can be in the making.
Coincidentally, one of my besties and I had a conversation about her desire to have a girl’s weekend with her daughter too. Her daughter is only a few months younger than Zandra. Wouldn’t it be fun to do something together, since it might be more fun for the girls? And wouldn’t it be fun to do this every year and eventually expand our group to include our future daughter-in-laws? Wouldn’t it be cool if one day our grandaughters could join this group at the age of 12 – the same age our daughters are now??
Yes. It would be cool. It’s what our “end” looks like: our daughters and stepdaughters, our daughter-in-laws, and our granddaughters, all heading off to spend an amazing girl’s weekend together on a yearly basis.
We better work backwards and make that happen.
So we did. And it happened. And I can’t wait to share the end result….