Josh’s Birthday Party

I try to not get all teary about how my little guy is turning 9.

But NINE.

WOW.

He is sometimes a teeny bit sad his birthday is the only one in our home in the winter. I remind him of how cool it is to have the exact same birthdy as Auntie Jenn – and that usually cheers him up as she is way cool.

Another reason that it’s hard to have a birthday in the winter for him is that he loves soccer, and would love to have a soccer game for his celebration. This year, he decided that even though hockey is not his favorite sport, he still enjoys playing, so a street hockey game would be fun.

We planned to play in our back alley and he would also invite his Dad so there would be two adults – one per team (realistically no one wants me as the adult on the team – so his Dad and Rob are good picks. I just take the photos:)). He made up the teams (they were a little bit unmatched – as he picked his older brothers to be on his team – but whatever – his party):

We then we decided we would make some jerseys for the players on each team.

If we were rich, we would have ordered some real jerseys for each player. But, we aren’t, so we found some cool websites where you can order blank jerseys – that have all the right colours and stripes and you just have to print their names on them. But since we aren’t even rich enough to do that, we bought some red and blue tshirts and then used some “DUCK” tape (that’s really what is was called) and made stripes and numbers. We were trying to make it look a little like the Toronto Maple Leafs and the Detroit Red Wings.

They turned out pretty good. Rob and I made them with only minor complaints of backaches and moaning how we decided to do thin stripes – which involved some exacto kniving. We quickly decided the numbers had to be easily made with lines – no cirles.

The only real glitch was the tape around the bottom of the shirt. It meant that the shirt no longer had any stretch. So it was a little tight for Rob and Josh’s Dad. Suck it up boys. It’s as good as it gets. (Oh ya, and don’t try to wash them:)

Josh loved them and the other kids did too – so that is what mattered.

As for the cake, we had to work soccer back in somehow, so Rob came up with a great idea of making a soccer field cake. I made an icecream cake (it’s the popular birthday cake choice around here) with mint chocolate chip icecream, and then we decorated it.

Ok. Rob came up with most of the ideas. And then did most of the decorating. But I suggested the Kitkats for the nets (but then he took the idea and perfected it). I guess that means we are a good cake decorating team:)

Josh was really happy with how it turned out!

The party itself was a great hit:

Now a couple more days until the real day when my little man turns 9!!

Glasses

So I finally got new glasses.

I had the same pair since before Zach was born.

Yup – that’s almost 11 years now.

The glasses were really on their last legs. The kids were begging me to get new ones (even though I only wear them from my bedroom to the bathroom and back). They were so scratched, I couldn’t really see through them either.

But they hold such memories:) I slept wearing the glasses when the boys’ were babies and sleeping in the basinet in my room. I needed to be able to see them as soon as I opened my eyes. You know, to check if they were breathing. I couldn’t waste a split second putting my glasses on….

But, I finally caved and got new ones.

I can’t actually see out of these ones either though, since my eye doctor somehow gave me the wrong script (for both my contacts and my glasses – how does that happen?)

So, I am off to get the new script put in.

But here’s what they look like! (not that anyone will ever see me wearing them anyways…):

Zach says I look “more work-y”. Hmmm…not sure if that is the look I was going for:

He thought putting his finger in front of the camera would be pretty funny. I guess it is. I had to look over my glasses in order to actually see
him.

Recipe: Oatmeal Cookies

Rob’s Mom, or Grammie as we call her, makes the best oatmeal cookies.

Actually, she makes the best oatmeal cake, oatmeal chocolate chip cookies and these oatmeal cookies. They were her Mother’s recipe (Mammy). We enjoy them whenever she makes them for us (which is often). Josh and I decided to make some the other day. Delicious. Real, old fashioned, oatmeal cookies:

Mammy’s Oatmeal Cookies

1 cup butter
1 cup brown sugar

Beat together.

Add: 2 cups rolled oats.

Blend in:

1 3/4 cup flour
3 tsps baking powder
1 tsp salt

Add 1/2 cup milk

Mix well and roll into “mini loaves” (see picture) and slice. Bake at 350 on lightly greased cookie sheet until slightly brown.

These can be refridgerated in rolls or frozen; then thawed, sliced and baked.

Best 10’s: This past weekend

This past weekend we were invited up to our neighbor’s cottage. They have 2 children – one boy who is good friends with Josh, and a little girl. We only had the boys with us this weekend; it’s always a little weird to go somewhere without all the kids:(

However, we had a great time – and hope to do it again with all the kids! Our neighbors were such gracious hosts, the weather was perfect, their home was lovely, the kids all got along (a few minor scraps) and we enjoyed nature and the winter wonderland.

Here are the top 10 moments:

1. The gorgeous scenery

2. Tobogganing

3. Snow ball fights

The kids loved having snowball fights – we had two really good ones where the snow was perfect!

4. Man tracker

The Dads vs. The kids. Boy do they have energy!!

Clearly Zach was harder to spot since I didn’t get many pics of him!

5. Crazy dog Arthur

Speaking of energy!! This dog doesn’t stop!

6. Yummy food

7. Great conversation by the fire

It was so nice to get to know our neighbors better. They are such a great family!

8. Mini sticks

The boys, when inside, played a ton of mini sticks. Poor Arthur (their dog)wanted to play so badly too but kept chewing the ball! Mini sticks was fun, but we often had to shut them down when the competition got too fierce.

9. Watching Zach show their little girl notes on the ukulele

I wish I got a picture of this. Zach was so sweet and patient showing their little girl what he has learned in guitar – and transferred over to ukulele.

10. Falling asleep from exhaustion:)

Quote of the Week

“Look far enough ahead”.

I love the wisdom in this short quote.

So many times we make decisions for now that sometimes we would make differently if we looked far enough ahead.

This past month we have been talking about decision making during Family Night. I finished reading “The Entitlement Trap” by Linda and Richard Eyre a little while ago and was struck by the section on decision making.

Our children make many decisions that affect the rest of their entire lives when they are in only their second decade of life. These decisions affect the next 6 to 7 decades! We must try to help them make the wisest decisions since they really don’t have all the wisdom they need when they are only in their second decade.

There are decisions that they can make upfront about their future – things like “I will complete school” or “I will never cheat on a test” or other decisions that work towards developing certain character traits. Making decisions ahead of time often makes it easier for them to stay focused on what is important – keep their eye on the end result – and not just fly by the seat of their pants for everything – especially when there are life long consequences!

They really do need to be looking far enough ahead in the future in little decisions that they make now. And if they need to be, that means we need to be helping them do this. Gabe was talking about high school and how he didn’t want to take French. However, he wants to be a pilot. Not having French may limit him later on, so he is now rethinking his decision. Of course, we could just step in and insist he take certain subjects, but we want him to make choices on his own…that requires thinking far enough ahead.

It certainly is a fine balance between being in the present and looking far enough ahead – but both are really important.

My Dining Room Table

I love our dining room table. If our table could talk, oh the things it might say.

Let me tell you about our table:

We bought our home one stormy night in February 2008. We had already put in 4 offers on 4 different houses and lost all 4 times in bidding wars. We were not going to lose this house. We agreed we were prepared to pay $100,000 over asking. Yup – $100,000. We live in a city with insane real estate costs and slim pickings so we were getting pretty desperate.

The night offers were being taken (that’s how it works in these crazy markets) there was a huge snowstorm. To our complete and utter shock , we found out there were no offers on the house – likely because of the snow storm. So we went in and offered list price – to which the sellers laughed as they had listed low in anticipation of multiple offers. They countered with a price $50,000 over asking to which we pretended to be appalled (even though we had been willing to go $100000 over)! We settled on midway – $30,000 over – the biggest steal in our minds!

While we were signing papers, we sat in their dining room (which is basically the center of the house). As we were signing, they happened to offer us their dining room table and matching hutch. It wouldn’t fit in their new home, so they’d be happy to leave it for us. We were thrilled – we didn’t have a table big enough for us all and this one extended to fit 12! It was a beautiful, solid table – could do with being refinished eventually – but perfect for our needs.

We were happy to take this table also because despite having pretty much two of everything (since we were merging two fully furnished homes – we had a lot of stuff!!) we really wanted to change many things to make this home really “our own”. This was the perfect start to creating our “own home” rather than having bits and pieces from two previous homes.

This table still stands in our dining room. We have replaced all the chairs and hung a new chandelier but the table remains the same. This table has really become the focal point in our home. Sure the kitchen is a gathering place, the family room is a room of comfort, our bedrooms are all our own little havens, but the dining room table is the place.

This is where so much of our family life takes place! The kids do their homework at the table. Arts and crafts are done at the table. I sometimes even fold laundry on the table! Rob sits at the table to listen to music (apparently it’s the best spot in the house to hear the speakers). We even dance around the table.

Most importantly, the table is the place for all our family dinners (we usually eat breakfast in the kitchen) – every day meals and special occasions. It is at these family dinners where many of our family discussions take place. Family dinners are sacred. Sometimes it is the only time to really connect with each other! It’s a time where the rest of the world is completely shut out: no TV, no phones, no technology. Candles are lit every night, and we share our stories of the day. I have to say dinner time around this table is where we have shared the most laughs ever, talked about the touchiest of subjects, and communicated our biggest dreams.

The table also serves as a reminder to me of how lucky we were that night to get our home – and the table thrown in! I love that our table has a story. The table will continue to serve as a reminder that no matter where we are, it is always important to gather round. It’s always important to have a spot where we are completely focused on each other, where we share, laugh, celebrate and connect. I will always make it a top priority to gather around this table with my family.

Recipe: Hello Dolly Bars

I’m all about the quick and easy recipe.

I first tried this one at my friend Joanne’s Christmas get together and instantly loved it.

Then I saw how quick and easy it was to make, and really loved it.

It is a fast treat in my house: if I have a few mintues and want to make the kids a special after school treat, or a family night treat, or need something to bring over to someone’s house – it’s the go-to recipe.

Hello Dolly Bars

1/2 cup unsalted butter
1 cup graham cracker cumbs
2 cups semisweet chocolate chips
1 cup coconut
1 cup chopped walnuts
1 can (15 oz) sweetented condensed milk

Melt the butter; mix in graham cracker crumbs. Pat crumb mixture in a 9×13 inch baking pan. Sprinkle the remaining ingredients over the crumbs in order given, in layers. Drizzle the sweetened condensed milk over all. Do NOT stir. Bake at 350 for about 25 minutes. Cool and cut into bars.

Of course, I always make some modifications. I sometimes use milk chocolate chips, or white. Or a mixture. I always use more than 2 cups too:) I usually use more graham crumbs too (like 1.5 cups at least) as I don’t find 1 cup is enough. I’ve subsituted pecans instead of walnuts too…still yummy.

Best 10’s: Why I Love Winter

You’d think after living in Eastern Canada my entire life that I would be used to winter.

But I’m not.

I hate the freezing cold. HATE IT.

I hate driving in bad conditions too.

I hate the darkness that starts early in the day and continues well past when I need to get up.

BUT. Since winter is my everyday reality – and every year reality (until I retire to somewhere warm *sigh*) – I better really work on falling in love with winter.

Best way to do that? Focus on what I do love:

1. Fresh fallen snow, hanging off some branches.

I had taken a great picture of that a couple of weeks ago after our first (and very late I might add) snowfall and somehow it got deleted. Zach had pointed it out (I love the fact that he is very observant about beauty in nature). So, here is one of my old street that I took a couple of years ago. Snow is really pretty.


2. The sound of snow being shovelled.

I love hearing the scraping of a snow shovel on the ground.

3. Riding the ski lift

I love the conversations we have on the ski lift. And we all get to enjoy nature as well:) Rob laughs because it appears I love the ski lift better than skiing! I don’t. I don’t think at least. Maybe.

This was taken on our last ski day.


4. Hot chocolate and marshmellows after being outside in the cold.

Especially in my hot new hot chocolate machine.

5. Winter fires and cozy blankets (ok and snuggling up with my honey).

6. Playing with the kids outside.

The nice thing about winter is that you really do get to be a kid again. Getting all bundled up, going skating,tobagganning, snow ball fights. A way to connect with your inner child!

This photo was our first New Year’s Day – and snowball fight together. They look so little!

7. The winter sky

You know when the sky is crazy blue, and the sun is shining and you feel all warm underneath the sunshine? Or you see how the sun shimmers off the white snow? Beautiful. Or the gorgeous sunset after a clear winter day. We caught a great one on the way home from skiing a few weeks ago:


8. The first snow fall excitement
.

Ok – you can probably see I’m stetching to find “my love of winter” by relying on my children’s excitement, but hey, I get a lot of joy of seeing them excited!

I love how they run to the window and are so excited when that first snowfall hits and they just want to get outside and enjoy it – even though there isn’t enough to play in! I love how they come in from the cold with snowflakes still on their lashes.

9. The winter wardrobe.

Ok – I admit it. I think I would miss my winter wardrobe if winter wasn’t around: sweaters, long sleeves, cozy pj’s, different looks with different coats, boots…. Gives a little variety.

10. My absolute favorite: planning the winter get-a-way!!!

And then of course going on it. There’s something exciting about packing your summer clothes, getting on a plane in the cold and stepping off it onto steamy pavement. That quick week in the sun, thinking about how cold it is at home, grateful that you are not having to shovel, really does energize you! Then when you return, you know spring is just around the corner…and oh how I love you spring:)

It’s fun when we get to go with the kids on our winter get-a-way (we take them away on March Break every second year), like last year:

But, having a romantic week alone is pretty spectacular too. This year…Costa Rica:)

I guess winter isn’t half bad…as long as you focus on all the good.